Tuesday, September 20, 2011

a thin line between love and hate?

I was doing my daily celebrity gossip update on US Magazine and I came across this article that quickly got my attention. 

Julie Bowen: I "Love and Hate" My Kids

I can't believe she just said that word in the same sentence with kids. I've always believed that hate was such a strong word and even when I felt so unbelievably angry towards someone, it was always easier to just say a few curse words instead. Believe me, I'm not perfect. I have said it in the heat of the moment at times and I've always regretted it afterwards. There are so many things that I could say I hate and wouldn't feel bad about it...

I hate rainy days.
I hate when the toilet seat is up.
I hate the taste of bitter melon.
I hate visits with the dentist.
I hate visits with the gynecologist.
I hate having to go to the DMV.
I hate when they don't have my size in a pair of shoes I've been dying to have!

Simple, petty things like that. But to say I hate someone, let alone my kids? I couldn't even imagine it. Parenting is never easy and it sure as hell isn't perfect. My son drives me crazy at times, but I don't think there's any excuse to use that word and associate it with kids. 

They say there is a thin line between love and hate, but with kids I don't think that falls true at all. 

I wonder what Julie Bowen's kids feel about her saying that. If she were my mom, I'd be so hurt.


  1. I agree. Not impressed she used such a word in regards to her children. Im sure however she looked back and as you have in the past and myself and MANY OTHER regretted this comment.

    Well here is to hoping anyways :)



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  3. I wouldn't say that. I have asked if someone wanted to purchase my kids. I was only kidding and they knew it! I love them!

  4. Wow, that seems absolutely horrible. It seems like it's just for the sake of having a catchy title though. Maybe the article explains it so that it doesn't sound quite as horrible? But I know I could never say hate in relation to my daughter, no matter what.

  5. I just realized it was a link and read the article. Not to be judgmental, because I'm sure it's very hard having 3 kids, one of them being a set of twins, and being an actress. But personally, I find those words pretty hurtful sounding. I don't think I could ever speak of my kids that way but if I did I'd feel horrible about it and I hope they'd never read it. =/

  6. Wow, is all I can say. I can;t imagine ever saying those words. I grew up in a household where my mother said things like that and to this day it still bothers me! Breaks my heart that parents don't think before they speak!

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  7. I guess sometimes we say things out of frustration.. I've heard my share of rants from my friends with kids..didn't bother me much since I knew they were just venting (no name calling involved). Guess it's different for all of us :)